How long have you two been together?
Eleven years-we dated for 4 years and have been married for 7 years.
How did you meet?
As teenagers, our neighborhoods were in walking distance of each other. Sometimes, we saw each other when we were hanging out with our friends. We started getting to know each other in the 8th grade and became good friends sometime in high school, around the 10th grade.
Why did you decide to start dating?
- Shalanda's version
We were on the school bus oneday and the boys were saying off the wall comments to the females like immature boys do. Well, Darian decided to join in and said something about my breast size being small. Anyway, I thought he was a real jerk and I think I rolled my eyes at him before getting off the bus.
Later that day, I was in the living room with my dad when Darian came by and apologized. As I watched Darian walk away, I turned to my dad and said,"he's not like the other guys, he's different." I made up in my mind that I wouldn't try to date him until the time was right. I had really strict parents and my dad was good at running guys away.
I really knew Darian was different and worth keeping around when we started college and my dad tried his hardest to discourage us from dating. Darian never asked me for sex and unlike the other guys, he kept calling and coming by despite my dad's negative comments. Here we are 3 kids later. - Darian's version
Most of that is on point. However, I did not say her breast size was too small. What had happened was...Shalanda and her friend were talking about filling in a shirt or cup sizes (something I still don't quite understand till this day). Not knowing exactly why I said it, I said, "Oh, you don't have to worry about that." As soon as the words rolled off my tongue I proceeded to insert my foot. There was a strange silence in the air for about 3 seconds and everything was moving in slow motion. The look that came over Shalanda's face was like Craig's on Friday when he went to pour the milk in his cereal and... "drip, drip." I am not quite sure who else heard me. I really did not care. I don't even remember if it was when we were going to school or coming home. I pray it was coming home, because it was excruciating knowing I had just embarrassed one of the sweetest (and finest) girls I have ever met and I did not want that feeling to last any longer than it had already had.
Well, I got home and commenced to writing a letter asking she forgive my immaturity. Not sure what I said in the letter. I just wanted to redeem any chance of her talking to me again. That was more than a decade and a half ago. Wow!! Maybe it was providence that caused me to blurt out such a crude suggestion (I swear I did not mean anything by it). May be it was the proverbial opposite attracting its mate. I being immature and she being mature. Whatever it was I am glad it happened. You just never know...
When are you going to try for that girl?
NEVER!!! Adoption is an option we have considered though.
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